I’ve been reading some fabulous World Domination Summit 2014-afterglow blog posts (such as this by Jedd Chang, this from Erin Harding, and this by Derek Murphy). In synthesizing and processing what WDS meant to me, I decided to bring something different to the table based on the overarching theme I kept hearing at WDS, which is:
Always be asking questions.
Here are four questions I’m asking myself, inspired by the conference. Answering these is helping me to start making shifts in my business and life—maybe they’ll be of help to you, too.
This week, I’m headed to World Domination Summit in Portland, where I’ll meet 2,999 like-minded people—but, I’m flying sola, which is a thing I don’t do very often. My partner in crime is long distance (or what we like to call “medium distance,” since we’re blessed to see each other so often), and the reasons we have for 95% of our travel are intertwined with seeing each other.
This week, it’s just me. Especially today, before the conference starts, as I write this in a beautiful café in SE Portland—it’s really just me.
A different part of our brain is activated when we’re in a new place wandering around, finding our way by ourselves. It isn’t turned on so easily at home unless we’re highly intentional about it. So often when we’re home, we operate on autopilot.
Even though I appreciate my favorite roasters and restaurants, my watery routine flows purely in the trench etched by repetition—and it requires some swishing around to shift the current.
For the solopreneur, the inspired creative, and oh right everyone who’s coming to WDS—you might, like me, be wondering what to bring. Business cards? Obvious (actually, where are mine… ::opens moo.com::). Notebooks? Check. Pens? Yup.
But, what could you be forgetting? What object lying on your bedroom floor will haunt you on the airplane, personifying itself in your head and chastising you for your forgetfulness?
(No one else has an inner critic that intense? Ok, I digress.)
Let me help.
Here’s the heat I’m packin’—plus, I asked WDS alumni the #1 must-have they brought in prior years. Take it or leave it (but at least leave it intentionally).
What to bring to WDS:
Upper limiting has been called the “only problem we need to solve,” whether we’re talking about relationships, business or personal goals.
Some of our generation’s hardcore thought leaders have written about the Upper-Limit Problem, from Marie Forleo to Gay Hendricks to Mastin Kipp.
Basically, when we’ve pushed through to a higher threshold—which could be anything from an intimacy breakthrough with your partner to a raise at work—our inner alarm bells go off and we begin to sabotage our success. This could come in many forms, from starting an argument to getting sick to forgetting to do something you committed to.
But here’s the thing: we ebb and we flow. Sometimes we’re making progress and sometimes we’re at a healthy resting state, working to integrate the new levels we’ve unlocked. When we’re flowing and soaring higher and higher, we’re watchful for our subconscious to bring out our upper limiting behavior.
But—what can we do when we’re ebbing? When we’re stagnant and haven’t felt much push or drive in our lives for a day, a week, a month? We should start lower limiting.
My work involves helping people dig up their deep passions so they can express them in the world. When a client has just taken the leap from the corporate world, coworking spaces are the absolute first thing I recommend. They are a venue, a community and a culture—they are whatever you make them.
But even with the broad view that those of us immersed in the coworking world have, I think that when we talk about coworking, we often dance around the point—that at their deepest level, they can be containers and facilitators for our own self-realization.
While the specific community you choose is important, the space in which it’s contained is not what this revolution in work is about—it’s about the growing number of people who are able to live all of their passions and expression through their work and relationships.
There is sometimes a distancing that happens when it comes to work and work spaces in general—and even coworking spaces. We talk about their features: the wifi, the events, the coffee, and yes, the culture and communities.
Those things have varying levels of importance, but I think most important of all is that coworking is vital in supporting people who choose healthy, sustainable work they love. Coworking can help people truly come alive.
What if we looked at coworking this way—as an empowering space for growth, exploration and self-evolution?
I believe we need to shift the conversation from how much work we can get done in our space, to the kind of expansive, supportive, nourishing work we can do—the things that make us come alive, that represent our fullest expression—and use that awareness to catalyze soul-fulfilling projects within our coworking space.
Since I was a little girl, I’ve had a tendency to deny help and stay uncomfortable for no apparent reason.
“Do you want a pillow? How can you sit like that?” my mom would ask as I watched TV on her bedroom floor.
“I’m fine!” I’d squeal. Buffy the Vampire Slayer had returned from commercial break and I was not to be disturbed.
My mom would frown and walk away, only to ask me again 15 minutes later (“No! Go away!“).
You see, I was on the floor leaning against her bed. Except, not the normal sides of a bed that one typically leans on. I was propping my torso against the edge of the foot of the bed, the corner where metal mattress frames go to poke at spines and injure shins.
During the hour-long show (and later, during Angel, Dawson’s Creek, Felicity…), I would shift the metal edge from one side of my spine to the other, back and forth, left to right.
I’ve thought about starting a coworking space many times, because it is the brick and mortar equivalent of what I believe can change the world—a community of people with strongly aligned value systems around creation, receptivity and sharing.
But in 2014, I believe we’re quickly approaching the time when, “I opened a coworking space!” will no longer be newsworthy in the eyes of journalists. In a lot of cities, we’re already there.
As coworking spaces become more ubiquitous, grand openings are only worth a mention if there is a greater purpose behind it.
Beyond the infrastructure, why does coworking matter in 2014? How can we make it matter?
I’m facilitating a panel at this year’s Global Coworking Conference to talk about newer, more compelling narratives that coworking space owners can develop—not only to stay relevant to the media, but also to be more attractive and valuable to prospective members.
I’m deep into my Manifest Like a Mofo group, and today we’re hitting on one of the hardest themes: taking responsibility for how you create your life.
When I read this in Conscious Loving (one of my bibles for life) by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, it floored me:
It’s simple to find out what you’re committed to—just look at the results you’re creating.
Gay elaborates on this in Conscious Living: He says that every time we’re faced with a choice, we can either take healthy responsibility or blame someone or something else. Each time we avoid responsibility, we claim victimhood.
Being a victim means we have no choice, we’re not in control, and we aren’t choosing our moments.
The idea that we choose our reality is an intense concept to step into if you haven’t been here before (and even if you have). It can bring up a lot of denial, fear, self-righteousness and anger.
When I began offering my Manifest Like a Mofo Workbook as a stand-alone product, it didn’t feel right to me.
What felt better? Offering it for the same value, but pairing it with more intention and connection—therefore, everyone who has purchased it will now also receive a 9-day course + guidance via email throughout the time they’re completing it.
The schedule is as follows:
Day 1: Happy Bubbles
Day 2: Clearing Out the Old
Day 3: Future Fears
Day 4: Change Your Story
Day 5: Make New Agreements
Day 6: Systems and Space
Day 7: Your Three Intentions
Day 8: Lift the Flashlight (Reflection Day)
Day 9: Alignment & Gratitude
I have some beautiful ladies (and men!) scheduled to start this deep work/play this upcoming Sunday (yes, two days from now). Want to join in?
Grab the course and workbook and get ready to dive into the magic. Talk to you soon.
I went to an intense yoga class with my teacher two days ago. Everyone felt it; I know this because he said toward the end: “Seven more minutes of class, guys.” And everyone laughed. Because damn, we were all wondering.
In the beginning of class, he shared with us something that resonated with him via one of his teachers, Erich Schiffmann:
In every moment, you’re either connecting to Source or reiterating the ignorance of the ego.
It danced over my skin when he said it.
Throughout class, I thought about it. I thought about how much I was seeing the appearance of ego in my own life lately, and in particular my relationship.
I had been making everything about me. I pointed out to my partner that even the simplest thing he was saying—she’s really really smart, for example—was triggering me. Wasn’t I really smart, too? Yes. Do I want to crawl into a shame hole for even admitting to thinking this way? Yes.