Some friends and I were watching a dance performance at the Boulder Theater when a friend-of-a-friend arrived. During an intermission, she began to talk about her recent breakup, and the texts she was now sending him that he wasn’t replying to.
“I told him he was beautiful, and he didn’t say anything. All I need is a ‘thank you.’ Just a ‘thank you.'”
She proceeded to mention a couple of other messages she was “needing” replies from.
When she said it, it knocked me back to the person I am when I say things like this, which is a self that doesn’t quite feel like my full Self. It’s something I’m acutely aware of, and it inspires me to write about how we can start conversations that empower us—even if we never get a response to what we’re expressing.
When we have something to express, how can we communicate what’s truly in our heart?
Often, if we think we need a specific thing in return, it means that we are communicating from a state of lack—that we’re waiting for a response or reaction to fill us up or help us decide what to feel. To need in this way can feel very disempowering.
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I’m eating lunch at a delicious ramen noodle place in Denver (so trendy), and I overhear a woman talking to her two female friends about a breakup.
“I just put his stuff outside the house. And, of course I couldn’t do it without tequila.”
They sighed knowingly.
Then, an interesting thing happened. The other two women started taking turns offering up something their husbands do that they despise.
“Ryan plays video games for an hour after work and I’m like, can I have the TV back please?”
“Totally! Mark does that with football and I can’t stand it.”
Ladies—we need to stop relating this way.
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As I was purchasing the Kindle version of Big Magic today (note: everything Elizabeth Gilbert writes/says/does should be on an artist’s priority list of conscious consumption), I realized I hadn’t written about my own list of books that have changed my life.
So with no further adieu, here they are!
These books have completely helped me upgrade my communication, relationships, business and health in the last few years, and I’m super grateful for them.
Continue reading The 12 Nonfiction Books That Have Changed How I Live In the World