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How to Make an Argument Diffuser Box for Your Relationship

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Good news, guys! Since my video I published last week, I’ve learned some bare-bones basic techniques in Final Cut Pro, so this video has way less “ums” than it originally did.

If you don’t really believe me since there are still enough “ums” in it to make a drinking game, that’s fine. (I recommend Spanish cider, since it’s 4% ABV. Have fun!)

But really, this post is very meaningful to me.

In this video, I show how I made an Argument Diffuser Box for my relationship—and how you can easily make one too from materials you probably have lying around the house (and if you don’t, I’ve included where you can find some pretty ones below).

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The Argument Diffuser Box is filled with decorated mini-exercises, all rolled up and tied with twine, designed to be plucked from their home when in the midst of a fight or heated discussion.

I authored all of the cards and exercises myself, but a lot of them were inspired from some of my favorite books (listed below the video) on intentional partnership.

The cards are fun and light-hearted, and inspire you to get out of your lizard brain and back into love, play and affection.

I explain much more about them in the video. Enjoy!

Now: Make Your Own!

For the box:

I used a mini-suitcase from a teddy bear my boyfriend gave me a long time ago that I saved because I had a feeling it could be re-used. :) But here are some great ones if you want to go ahead and make it look extra pretty and intentional:

For the notes (cards + writing):

I had some blank business cards from Muji that I hadn’t used, so I stuck with a brown, rustic, natural motif for the entire thing and drew some colorful designs inside the cards. If you want to make things more colorful or cute:

For the wrapping:

At first I thought about just folding the cards up, and then realized that was the most boring thought I’d ever had. Tie them up in style!

Show Notes

Books I Mention (Also My Top 5 Relationship Books):
Also:
  • Sorry my apartment is messy! Tony and I just moved in together and we’re working out storage issues. :)
  • By “epitaph” I meant “epigraph,” and that’s why I’m a writer, not a pronouncer.
  • I’d love to have a Conscious Partnership Development chat with you, anytime.
  • What do you think of my box? Want one? Let me know in a comment!

DIY: Luxurious Homemade Peppermint Cacao Face Butter

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I absolutely love making my own body butters and face creams in the winter.

My skin, especially in Colorado, needs to drink up more moisture than unrefined organic coconut oil alone can provide, which is what I use most of the year (this one in particular is my favorite).

But in winter, I notice that no matter how much coconut oil I put on, I still get rough patches particularly on my upper arms.

When this happens, I gleefully pull out all my essential oils, carrier oils and butters and fill up my kitchen counter with them.

(You may remember me doing this a bunch during my 30-Day Making Challenge last winter, when I made various delicious body butters and sugar scrubs on Days 6, 7, 10 and 24.)

Here’s my latest facial butter, designed specifically to:
  • moisturize my face more deeply with shea/cacao butters instead of coconut oil
  • heal and nourish my skin with Vitamin E
  • keep my skin acne-free with Tea Tree oil
  • purify and protect my skin with carrot seed oil (which is also anti-carcinogenic)
  • balance skin tone and reduce blemishes with rosemary oil

Peppermint Cacao Balancing Face Butter (w/ Vit. E and Tea Tree oil)

Makes 4 ounces.

  • 1/4 cup cocoa butter
  • 1/2 cup shea butter
  • 2 tbsps jojoba oil
  • 3 drops tea tree
  • 4 drops lavender
  • 1/4 tsp vitamin E
  • 3 drops rosemary
  • 5 drops carrot seed
  • 2 drops vanilla
  • 3 drops peppermint

Melt the shea, cacao and jojoba together in a clean pot on the stove on low-medium heat.

When everything is melted (don’t do a lot of coaxing, let it melt naturally), turn the heat off and remove the pot from the burner. Add the rest of the ingredients and stir lightly with a spoon.

Pour into a 4 oz. jar and refrigerate (you are also welcome to whip it with a mixer as well, though I don’t have one, and the consistency is just fine without doing so).

Then, when the pot is sufficiently cooled down but still warm, dive headfirst into it and rub the warm oil all over your body, or offer to give your partner a warm foot massage with it like I did and win brownie points forever.

Take the container out of the fridge in the morning before your shower, then afterwards… voila! Instant happy.

What’s Up Next for Live All of You in 2016!

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I did not want to post this video.
 
Hell, I do not want to post this video, right now.
 
Ugh! Cringe! Blarg!
 
It all goes through my head:
 
“Stop saying ‘um,’ stop playing with your hair, stop saying ‘like,’ why are you so bad at explaining things to a camera…”
 
I still can’t decide if I absolutely hate filming videos and I shouldn’t do it, or if this means I should dive into it and two years from now I’ll be like: “Wow, I’ve come so far! Look at me on my come-so-far throne!”
 
I don’t know. But, I’ve got to try. I feel pulled to try.
 
My word for 2016, since words are a thing now and I like words, is ENGAGE. I want to feel engaged, alive, present in everything I’m doing—whether that’s reading The New Yorker in my bathtub, or speaking at a conference. I want to be there, embodying whatever serves in the alchemy of the moment.
 
So, this video is where I explain what I have planned for 2016 for Live All of You (the first half of 2016 at least, apparently, according to Socially Awkward Video Amy). I actually am really excited to refresh my site, continue sharing more, and do it all from love.
 
So, cheers to that. No really, cheers, I need a drink.

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How Lara Catone Lives All of Her: Revitalizing Sex Education Through Embodiment

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This is part of the Live All of You Interview Series! For more on what this is all about, head over to the intro post and make sure to sign up to find out who I’ll be interviewing next.

When I first heard of Lara Catone, I was about to head out on a road trip to connect with my gravity-bound self again. I had been traveling by plane way too much, and I’d been feeling a deep need to commune with the earth.

I wanted to root, not route. I wanted to flow, not fly. I wanted to be humbled by gravity, not scanned for metal, put in metal and spit out in a different time zone.

And I wanted to touch in to my divine feminine—my creative force, my inner Shakti, my innate wisdom. And so, I headed to Shakti Fest, a festival that honors the divine feminine.

I spoke with Lara briefly via email beforehand, and I felt very called to attending her workshops at the festival. She defined the divine feminine to me as pleasure incarnate, as a dancer, as holy and irreverent. She is deeply well studied and interested not only in the spiritual aspect of things, but the scientific and historic. These dual aspects of her nature resonated with me.

Having experienced her exquisitely strong, soft, wise nature in workshops multiple times now, I am so happy to introduce you to her in the Live All of You Interview Series.

Lara is a somatic sexologist and sex educator who supports women in healing and coming into wholeness. As the founder of The Artemis School, the first and only educational institution weaving sex education with embodiment and nature-based mystery traditions, Lara believes that our sexual energy is the vital life force behind everything we create.

And… I have an announcement!

Finally, after having this in my heart for months… I’m delighted to share that in 2016, I’ll be attending The Artemis School!

I feel spellbound thinking about this journey toward becoming a sex educator and practitioner of women’s holistic sexuality—and even more so, about connecting more deeply with my self and other women in this context.

And now, I present to you: Lara Catone.

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My Secret Niche Site: One Month in Progress Update!

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On January 1, I started a secret niche site (Pat Flynn style!) and have been working on it pretty consistently.

I wanted to share more about it here, as it’s turning out to be a fun experiment in seeing how I can grow something without using any of my own social capital to share/promote it. It has grown only through organic traffic, white hat SEO, good honest content and new Twitter friends (it has its own Twitter account, but that’s all when it comes to social media).

It’s also an interesting case study in how someone completely unknown in the land of the Internet can start and grow an audience, engagement and a passive income stream without any prior contacts or connections.

About one month in, here’s an update:

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Nov/Dec Challenge: 30 Days of Making (Complete)!

Taking a cue from Investigative Designer David Seah, I’ve decided to do a challenge of bringing one new creation into the world for 30 days.

Editor’s Note: I initially planned to do this every single day of November (including weekends), but due in part to the fact that I have 20-hour yoga teacher training weekends, I’m much better suited to do 30 weekdays. And so, I shift to welcome what feels right for me.

My intentional parameters:
  1. It must be or represent a tangible thing that can be reused, shared or enjoyed by myself and others. 
  2. It should unfurl from my authentic creative expression. (This could mean making a productivity sheet, or this could mean making a hula hoop.)
  3. It must offer value to myself/others, help me create more value (by automating a process, etc.) or help me sell something of value I’ve already created.

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Often I share photos of my creations (likely on FacebookInstagram or Twitter tagged with #30daysofmaking). Let the creativity games begin!

My 30 Creations:

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You’re Committed to What You’re Getting: Making New Agreements

I’m deep into leading my Manifest Like a Mofo group, and today we’re hitting on one of the hardest themes: taking responsibility for how you create your life.

When I read this in Conscious Loving (one of my bibles for life) by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, it floored me:

It’s simple to find out what you’re committed to—just look at the results you’re creating.

Gay elaborates on this in Conscious Living: He says that every time we’re faced with a choice, we can either take healthy responsibility or blame someone or something else. Each time we avoid responsibility, we claim victimhood.

Being a victim means we have no choice, we’re not in control, and we aren’t choosing our moments.

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The idea that we choose our reality is an intense concept to step into if you haven’t been here before (and even if you have). It can bring up a lot of denial, fear, self-righteousness and anger.

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