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The Holidays With Loved Ones: 15 More Questions Worth Asking at The Table

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Since my last post, Thanksgiving and Gratitude: Four Real Questions Worth Asking at The Table, turned out to be wildly popular, I decided to post more questions to help you go deeper with your loved ones during the holidays (or any time!).

It is my belief that through self-inquiry and self-expression—in both solitude and community—we can learn to thrive as our whole selves in the world.

Here are 15 questions to help you do that.

Of them, some are sourced from the If: Gathering and spiced with my own flavor, and some are purely from my own inspiration.

Enjoy!

1) If we could pull up one more chair at the table, who would you invite? Why?
2) What is one thing we don’t know about you that you hold sacred?
3) What is trying to be born through you?
4) What are you learning about yourself right now?
5) What are some words that you want to describe this season of your life?
6) Tell a story about an answered prayer or desire that felt magical to you.
7) What makes it easier for you to connect to the Divine?
8) What is one thing that keeps you from being truly authentic with others?
9) What are you believing right now that you know isn’t true?
10) What is one area of your life where you need more strength and support?
11) Share a time when someone else’s honesty gave you permission to be honest.
12) What are you avoiding right now that is important to you?
13) What one thing in your life do you feel like quitting?
14) How have you loved someone in the details of their life lately?
15) What’s one thing you sense the Divine is asking you to do?

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Thanksgiving and Gratitude: Four Real Questions Worth Asking at The Table

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The most savored Thanksgiving experience I ever had was in Boulder, completely unexpected.

My friends Julie and Chanel took me up into the mountains to a friend’s house. It had sweeping windows, vistas of snow caps from every angle. A very long table was set up on the ground, and we were all invited to sit around it on cushions.

And what I remember most about it was the intention.

There was plenty of food, but there wasn’t this rush to eat it. It was there on our plates, and we were all invited—all 20+ of us—to give thanks before we ate. There was live music, a beautiful singer and guitarist, who played a tune I had stuck in my head for months afterward.

Mainly, there was a softness, a quiet reverence that I loved about it. And after we ate, we stayed talking and drinking, sharing and making new friends.

This one Thanksgiving gave me a greater appreciation for what the holidays can be—if we let them.

This year, I’ll be at 2-3 different Thanksgiving celebrations on the East Coast. And what I desire most right now is connecting to others on a deeper level. This means more than going around the table and half-heartedly blurting out something I’m thankful for.

I want space for honesty. I want space for someone to be so honest that they might say: “You know, I’m really not feeling a lot of gratitude in my life right now” and for that to be welcomed, felt and loved. And then, if they like, explored in a group setting.

And so I have some questions for you that you might like to ask in your own gathering. These questions are sourced with 100% gratitude from the If: Gathering, touched with a dash of my own flavor.

These can be asked all at once at a dinner gathering, or perhaps if you’re with loved ones for a few days this holiday season, you can ask the first one or two at lighter-feeling times and the other two at more intimate times.

1) What are the easy, uncomplicated things that you’re thankful for this season?
2) What are some of the more unexpected or surprising gifts you’ve received this past year?
3) Even in the midst of gratitude, is there something you’re longing for?
4) What might the Divine be inviting you to learn through this longing?

Please, if you use any of these and would like to share with me the results—I’d always love to hear it.

A Story About A Bike + Receiving vs. Manifesting + Love Something A F*cking Lot

When I came back to New York last Friday, my bike was gone. It had three locks on it, but it didn’t matter. It had vanished.

I know. It’s just a bike, right? This happens all the time.

But, sometimes I think about what the thieves were like, where they are now, where my bike is. I think about it being in a warehouse with other bikes, or being sold, or being painted to hide its identity. I think about how they may have plotted to steal it, about how much time it took to hack through my heavy-duty cloth-covered chain in the dead of night.

I wonder who it will belong to now.

On the weekend at my mother’s house in New Jersey, I mourned my bike and the things it gave me: the discovery of neighborhood cafes and restaurants, the freedom of meandering the city to my leisure, the windblown rush of zipping down streets crowded with honking cars—ultimately, a sense of belonging in New York. I would feel it when stopped at a red light with other cyclists, or co-yelling at tourists in the bike lane on the Brooklyn Bridge. We were one unit; we were bicyclists.

I hadn’t historically been the biggest fan of New York—but having a bike had helped to shift that for me. Continue reading A Story About A Bike + Receiving vs. Manifesting + Love Something A F*cking Lot

The Epic Skyline of Home

I’m back in Boulder now, riding my bicycle, doing yoga, sipping single-origin espresso, writing poetry, interviewing amazing people, sharing wine and dinner with girlfriends. It’s crisp but sunny, summer’s digestif.

It’s hearty, life here, and I can’t imagine tearing myself from it. In a traveling way, sure—in a permanent displacement way, no. Not yet. When I’m here, I can create a reflection of what I see around me—bliss, growth, magic—and store it inside myself as feeling. But, I find I have to keep coming back to recharge it.

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Play-Based Reclaiming: I’m Riding 100 Miles This Week in My Beautiful Boulder!

Happy beautiful Sunday! This is going to be an epically gorgeous 60/70-degree week in Boulder. Seeing as though I’m not sure how many more we’ve got left—yes I’m looking at you, little snow-capped dirt pile outside my window—I’m kicking off a 100-Mile Bike Ride Week starting today.

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Why am I doing this?

  1. This might sound way easy to some (hi, Amante Coffee clientele) and ridiculous to others, but I know it was a challenge for me to fit in 89.4 miles the one week I did it. So, I want to step up my own personal fitness game.
  2. It’s going to be a gorgeous week! And Boulder has already had its first snow. Many of my friends have put their bike stuff away—but let’s bring it back out for one more week of gorgeousness.
  3. I want to celebrate the beautiful playground I live in. After the 100-year flood we just experienced, it’s so nourishing to be able to see all parts of it: the unscathed, the etched in, the massaged, the forever altered. I’m so grateful to live here, and for me, this is a play-based reclaiming of my rocking city.

Continue reading Play-Based Reclaiming: I’m Riding 100 Miles This Week in My Beautiful Boulder!

How to Get Out of a Rut: Artist’s Edition | Avocado Mornings #4

Welcome to Avocado Mornings, Episode 4! This week, I talk about three simple ways I got out of my writing rut.

Topics: 1) Forget about your “art”—and everyone else for that matter. 2) Know what makes you happy—even when you’re so very not. 3) Focus on your “done” list, not your “to do,” and feel grateful for YOU.

And hey! Video, filmed outside, in flowy aquamarine shirt—you don’t want to miss this.

Continue reading How to Get Out of a Rut: Artist’s Edition | Avocado Mornings #4