Good news, guys! Since my video I published last week, I’ve learned some bare-bones basic techniques in Final Cut Pro, so this video has way less “ums” than it originally did.
If you don’t really believe me since there are still enough “ums” in it to make a drinking game, that’s fine. (I recommend Spanish cider, since it’s 4% ABV. Have fun!)
But really, this post is very meaningful to me.
In this video, I show how I made an Argument Diffuser Box for my relationship—and how you can easily make one too from materials you probably have lying around the house (and if you don’t, I’ve included where you can find some pretty ones below).
The Argument Diffuser Box is filled with decorated mini-exercises, all rolled up and tied with twine, designed to be plucked from their home when in the midst of a fight or heated discussion.
I authored all of the cards and exercises myself, but a lot of them were inspired from some of my favorite books (listed below the video) on intentional partnership.
The cards are fun and light-hearted, and inspire you to get out of your lizard brain and back into love, play and affection.
I explain much more about them in the video. Enjoy!
Now: Make Your Own!
For the box:
I used a mini-suitcase from a teddy bear my boyfriend gave me a long time ago that I saved because I had a feeling it could be re-used. :) But here are some great ones if you want to go ahead and make it look extra pretty and intentional:
- These are adorable and multi-use with Live, Laugh and Love sayings on them.
- How romantic—hide them inside a jewelry music box!
- It would be really fun and nerdy to hide them in a book box.
For the notes (cards + writing):
I had some blank business cards from Muji that I hadn’t used, so I stuck with a brown, rustic, natural motif for the entire thing and drew some colorful designs inside the cards. If you want to make things more colorful or cute:
- I really love these fine point colored pen markers for drawing.
- These thicker blank playing cards are a fun twist.
- These colorful blank flashcards look perfect (almost jealous I didn’t use these).
For the wrapping:
At first I thought about just folding the cards up, and then realized that was the most boring thought I’d ever had. Tie them up in style!
- I used regular natural twine for my natural rustic look.
- These polka dot colorful ribbons are super cute and vibrant.
- This cream vintage lace trim ribbon is so elegant!
Books I Mention (Also My Top 5 Relationship Books):
- Conscious Loving (check out my interview with the co-author, Kathlyn Hendricks): My relationship Bible, every page has dozens of nuggets to it. This has helped me build a solid foundation of trust and vulnerability in my relationship and I honestly think it should be required reading for everyone.
- Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life: These structures and techniques can be so helpful when you get into emotionally charged conversations.
- Conscious Loving Ever After: The follow-up to Conscious Loving for long-term relationships. Tony and I are reading a chapter of this together every Sunday in early 2016.
- The Relationship Skills Workbook: A DIY Guide to a Thriving Relationship: Julia Colwell of Boulder wrote this with inspiration from the Hendricks, and it offers thorough exercises on how to build (and rebuild) a conscious relationship.
- Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships: Using the ancient Japanese idea of illuminating the beauty in imperfection (“wabi sabi”), this book provides tools for you to experience more balance, harmony and joy in your relationship.
- Sorry my apartment is messy! Tony and I just moved in together and we’re working out storage issues. :)
- By “epitaph” I meant “epigraph,” and that’s why I’m a writer, not a pronouncer.
- I’d love to have a Conscious Partnership Development chat with you, anytime.
- What do you think of my box? Want one? Let me know in a comment!